Why can’t kids focus in school the way they do in sports?

Over the Thanksgiving Holiday, my daughter Olivia had a Soccer Tournament for her U-16 Girls  Travel Team.  I started to notice over the course of a couple of the games how Olivia was so focused, determined and always preparing for the next play. I was so impressed how she knew what to do and didn’t need to be told to focus or pay attention. Best of all… NO CELL PHONE!

Olivia also plays for her High School JV Soccer team and again that same week, I noticed how much better of a player she has gotten by really listening and paying attention to the coach. I was so proud when Olivia scored a goal for her school. All I kept thinking was “wow, first time I don’t have to worry about her making the right choices”.

After the game, I said to Olivia, “I am so proud of you and Dad is too. I wish all the hard work, effort and focus you put in playing soccer well and winning, you would put into your life and all aspects of it.”

At the Thanksgiving tournament, she actually started! Her hard work paid off! Again, I told her how proud we were and that working hard has rewards.

Why can’t she apply that to her personal life? I just don’t get it. Why doesn’t she want to “win” or “be the best” in school and in her life choices?

Havent figured out a way for her to get it yet but, I will not give up trying. I so hope it’s just a freshman thing because if her passion for soccer continues, which I think it will, no way  will she get a scholarship if her grades aren’t there. See, on the soccer field, no socializing, no texting, its all game. You are there to win.

Well, now I just need her to play just as hard and win in the game of life!

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2 Comments

  1. Barb November 28, 2012 at 8:41 pm

    Firstly – stop worrying about your daughter “making the right choices” Have more confidence in her. She sounds like an awesome kid.
    It was great to praise her but the last part ” I wish all the hard work, effort and focus you put in playing soccer well and winning, you would put into your life and all aspects of it.” makes it sound like a put down. Sounds like saying she is a bit of a looser in the rest of her life.
    I’m just pointing out things to “notice”

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    1. mominthesprings January 12, 2013 at 8:54 pm

      Thanks Barb for your feedback. Olivia is a great kid. Sometimes when we are too close to the flame we get burnt. Thanks for pointing things our from your perspective!

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