It’s a new school year and I can’t believe almost 3 months to the day of the last teen suicide at my daughter’s high school, (May 21, 2013), another girl committed suicide on August 28th, 2013.
I am stunned at what seems to be an epidemic!
I asked my daughter how and why and her response was, “Mom, kids now a days have a lot of stress and they are depressed and they don’t know how to handle it since they can’t talk to their parents about it.”
She tells me most of the suicides are usually girls and that they have family problems at home. What I don’t understand is WHY? WHat type of stress is so big and horrible that the only answer is death? I argued with my daughter because I said, “What stress does your generation have that all previous ones did not?” Then she replied, “Mom, you don’t get it, social media wasn’t around when you were in school. There is so much more teen pressure and stress. Kids can’t handle it and they get depressed and instead of getting help, telling their parents and going to a doctor for medication for it, they kill themselves.”
Are you kidding? So, if a teen can’t talk with his or her parents about something, this is their only way out?? I mean really?? Talk to a priest, a rabbi, school counselor, anybody, a friend. Why can’t these teens talk to their parents? How did their parents not see something was wrong? I am worried now.
What is the face of suicide? Is it my daughter? Is it her friend? I mean it’s like waiting for the other shoe to drop. It’s horrible.
Parents are scared. Now we have to worry if any little thing that upsets our children will push them over the edge? How did we get here and how do we make it stop? How dark must it be for these kids that their ONLY solution is death?
We still don’t have details on how or why the young girl killed herself but my heart goes out to her parents, family and friends. Life will never be the same and they will never know what was so bad that their daughter, sister, cousin, friend took her life for it.
I would love for someone to respond to this and give me some insight on how to prevent this teen suicide from getting out of hand? Am I scared? Heck yes. I am very involved in my daughter’s life, but now this just makes me realize I need to keep being involved and keep an open line of communication. But most importantly I need to establish trust. My daughter needs to be able to trust me with anything — even if I don’t approve. I need to be her safe house. I may not like, or approve what she tells me, but I will listen and be there always.
So hug your kids a bit longer tonight because I am sure the parents of the two young girls who took their precious lives would give anything to hug their teen daughters one last time and never let go.