Should you stalk your kids on Facebook, Instagram?

My daughter is a summer camp counselor and LOVES every minute of it. I know this because she has been posting photos on her Facebook page of herself with other counselors doing a group high 5 or dressed head-to-toe in blue for color war. Peeking at her Facebook page gives me a glimpse into her world without having to bombard her with questions when she comes home. Sometimes the comments on her status updates are the best part! For parents, the key definitely is to refrain from asking you kid anything about what she posts.

Admit it. If you’re a parent, you have looked at your teen’s Facebook page, Instagram or Twitter update for the sheer purpose of knowing who your kid is hanging around and what they are doing or saying without them knowing you’re as interested as you are. God forbid they think we’re nosy!

In the fall, my daughter will be off to college and you can bet I’ll be trying to sneak a peek at what she’s up to by checking her social media pages. At the school’s recent orientation, they showed parents a YouTube video to warn us not to go overboard stalking our kids on social media. The video, a satire, is pretty hilarious.

In the video produced by The Onion, E-Mom’ Gloria Bianco shows two TV news anchors how geographical distance is no longer a roadblock to shamelessly interfering with the lives of your children.

It cracked me up so I  had to share it with all of you.  Whether you have a kid going to college or not, I hope you’ll find it as funny as I did.

 

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4 Comments

  1. Heather B July 23, 2014 at 4:45 am

    That’s a good question. I think it depends on a lot of things. I think monitoring and setting up boundaries for social media, Internet, gaming, etc., if that’s the sort of thing we’re talking about, begins way before teen years. In times like these, our elementary kids are in need of discipline in this regard. We have to build smart skills in to our kids when it comes to all these things from education on the dangers to just simple self-control. In preparation for the middle school/tween/preteen years I’m very excited about a new book we’re reading that aligns with this. I have to share. It’s called “MiddleSchool: The Inside Story- What Kids Tell Us, But Don’t Tell You,” by Cynthia Tobias and Sue Acuna. It has interviews and feedback from middle schoolers, parents and teachers (and a little humor) to help us deal with faith, purity, puberty, communication, independence, discipline and accountability, tackling social media, technology, Internet, gaming, and deepening and strengthening a positive, loving relationship. It’s so rich in valuable help as we face these transitional years with our kids. I think everyone with a middle schooler or who will have a middle schooler will benefit from it. I would highly recommend it! http://www.tyndale.com/Middle-School-The-Inside-Story/9781589977778#.U8R_Gl4Q7wI

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  2. Dorothy August 5, 2014 at 7:14 pm

    I think in the world today as a parent we need to oversee to a degree what is going on in the internet world for our kids. To many people are on the internet for the wrong reason. I think Teen City Talks has finally come up with a solution to the bullying issue and the over sharing. Parents are in control of the site and can log on at any time. For the kids 3 groups are broken out silver, gold, platinum or Elementary, Middle School and High School and can only co mingle in that group. Two teenagers came up with this new site as a way to pay it forward. Please lets support them in.

    Cyber-mom
    Dorothy

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  3. Maia L. September 22, 2014 at 5:16 pm

    The internet is a valuable resource for me (mom of two teen-age girls) to not only know what is going on in their lives, but in their friends as well. My kids know I follow them on facebook, instagram, Askfm., etc., but because I keep a very very low profile, they forget. I do not comment on their posts, I don’t post on my page either so they aren’t reminded that I’m there. I don’t bring up in conversation any pics or comments they’ve posted either. When something comes up I’d like to discuss, I never use the information I found online to out them. It takes a bit of creativity and stealth, but it is possible. With the internet, it allows parents even more insight into their kid’s worlds than ever before. You just have to be very careful how you approach it as it isn’t hard for them to figure out how to cut you off without you even knowing it.

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  4. Nathan August 11, 2015 at 4:03 am

    Yeah it’s probably better to just leave your kids alone. If I found out my parent was looking at stuff online concerning me or my friends I’d be pissed off. Have a bit of trust and leave them alone, you’ll be better off. Where would you be hoping to be if they found out? Think about the kids other than yourselves for once.

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