Senior year and mom is anxious!

It’s senior year! Woah! I can’t believe Olivia will be graduating next year- class of 2016!

I told her over the summer to please not rush the year. Olivia has a tendency to want hurry things along. Shes always in a rush for things to happen. I told her I will be very anxious this year so telling me  everything that we have to do in the next 12 months will truly put me over the top with anxiety. I told her to please, take it one month a t a time. I can’t handle more than that right now.

She was already telling me we needed to go look at places to live in Tallahassee.  I told her, “Are you serious?  You haven’t even started your senior year and you already have yourself graduated and in college? Slow down! What’s the rush? ” She says she can’t wait to be done with high school. Olivia is in such a hurry to grow up and be on her own.  She said,  “Mom, all the good places will be taken.”  No they won’t. You just want to secure that you are going away.  “Let’s see how your first semester goes and after that, we will start looking,”  I said.  Now the tables are turned and I AM the anxious one and overwhelmed. I think she likes the feeling that I need  her to help me  get through this busy year.

I know she can’t wait to go away to college. BUT, I told her going to college isn’t about going away, it’s about getting an education, about  your future.  I told her, “You mess up, you mess up your future, not mine.” She has to realize she can’t have it both ways. She can’t pull the adult card when she wants and at the same time ask for us to help her when she should be helping herself. Not gonna happen.

I bought her a planner to organize herself and of course bought  myself the same one. I figured together we can get through this year one step at a time and enjoy senior year with her as much as we can, even though she can’t wait for it to be over, rushing it along of course.

So for now, one day at a time and a calendar ready to be filled with deadlines, events and college visits.

Do you have a senior graduating  next year?  Did  you already have a senior  graduate? Any words of advice? All are welcome! Anxious momma here!

 

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  1. Kerri September 17, 2015 at 12:52 am

    My son graduated from high school in June 2014. Sometimes he says things like, “what’s the big hurry to grow up? It’s not like adults lives are so fun and awesome.” He knows that working full time and paying the bills isn’t a cake walk. At the same time, the ‘grown up’ things that some kids get so excited about like drinking alcohol or having sex don’t have the same thrill for him as they do for other teenagers, so maybe that’s part of the reason he isn’t in a rush. I don’t mind if he drinks alcohol so there’s no taboo there and sometimes he does. And as far as sex goes, for now he says he wants to focus on having fun and genuinely connecting with other teens both male and female without the anxiety of getting naked.

    But as for your anxiety, here’s what I have to say: even though it may not feel like it, you have the rest of your life to be close with your daughter. Right now she cannot see that or even tell that is something important – but that’s okay. It’s your job to hold onto the truth in your mind and not let it go. You just keep it as your secret intention. You will get to be close to your daughter for the rest of your life. This may seem strange or impossible but it’s actually neither. You can create this. Just hold onto it. And for now, let her go a little bit.

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    1. mominthesprings October 1, 2015 at 3:44 pm

      Thank you Kerri! Never thought of it like that. That’s why I love blogging because I get to hear from wonderful moms like you that can get myself and other moms and dads through living with a teen ! I will let you know how it goes.
      Keep following and keep responding!
      By the way, sounds like you have a smart son!

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