Every day when my 13-year-old son comes home from school he spends about 20 minutes telling me about his school day. Although, I don’t hear much about his classes, teachers or assignments.
The conversation usually starts with what girl joined him at the lunch table. Moves on to what girl wore a tight shirt or short shorts to school. And always includes what girl he talked to him the most on that particular day
Yes, my son is girl crazy!
My efforts to prod him about his science test or his math homework get overshadowed by his eagerness to talk about his conversations with his friend over whether Susie is hotter than Jenny. He notices the girls who all of a sudden are wearing makeup to school.
While girls his age are swooning over Harry Stiles, my son is raptured by supermodel Kate Upton.
What’s a mother to do?
I’ve given the lectures about what to value in the opposite sex (intelligence, kindness, ambition) I have given him the talk about lust, love and sex. I grab every teachable moment to talk about what to value in women beyond looks. I’ve seen tons of advice for mothers of “boy crazy” tween girls but not a lot of mothers of boys.
All I can do is hope this “girl crazy” 13-year-old boy will one day find a woman he adores for all the right reasons. Until then, I’m trying to be a good listener and help him navigate the middle school years. Something tells me it’s only going to get more challenging!