If your teenage daughter has considered you annoying at some point in her life, know that you are not alone.
I have a great relationship with my teenage daughter. Most of the time.
Sometimes, I’m just plain annoying.
I am most annoying when I say the wrong thing. For example, yesterday, when my daughter told me she was going to borrow a dress for an upcoming party, I asked her why she doesn’t wear the blue dress I bought her for a different event. I continued on to tell her how good she looks in the dress. Big mistake. Just from her voice I could tell she was annoyed with me.
What is it about the mother/daughter relationship that lands a mother in the dog house with just a few wrong words? I am much more annoying to my daughter than I am to my sons. Most of the time, I don’t even realize what I’m about to say could be considered annoying. But once it’s out, I know right away what I have done.
One way I’m particularly annoying is the habit I have of repeating myself. This is extremely annoying to my daughter. How many of you mothers have offered a little bit of advice only to hear this response?
“Mom…You’ve told me that ten times!”
I’m also annoying when I excessively worry about my daughter’s messiness.
“Mom, no one but you cares if I make my bed.”
And let’s not forget how annoying I am when I don’t give the answer my daughter wants to hear.
“Mom, you don’t understand.”
By now, I have figured out the things I do most likely to annoy my daughter:
- Offer life lessons
- Remind her of something I want her to do
- Tell her not to get worked up over something
- Offer a solution to a problem
- Ask too many questions
As a mother of a teen girl, I am resigned to the fact that I just can’t avoid being annoying. Yet, I presume my daughter believes I have some good qualities to offset my annoyingness because, despite how irritating I can be, my daughter and I remain close. I know in my heart when it really matters, I’ll be the one she’s talking to — and I will try really hard not to be annoying about it.