I am watching the Today Show, actually I’m listening to it on my car radio, when Savannah Guthrie describes motherhood as “messy.”
Yes, Savannah that’s the word I would use, too.
Motherhood in 2018 is messy.
When you are the mother of young children, the mess is literal. Fingerprints on sliding glass doors, spilled juice in restaurants, filthy soccer cleats staining your carpets.
By the time your children are in high school, the mess is more about mounds of dirty laundry on their bedroom floor, and text messages coming in at all hours and fights over curfew.
And when you are the mother of college students and young adults, the mess is about arguments with roommates, dropping classes, changing majors, signing leases and making life choices. Sometimes, the mess is about their making choices you don’t agree with.
As mothers, our role changes over time, but our job is still messy. Let’s admit it, for mothers there are times when we come feel overwhelmed by the mess and demands of being on 24/7 problem-solving duty. Somedays, worry or guilt overtake you and you find yourself awake in the middle of the night expending emotional energy on concerns that will seem both deranged and justified.
In 2018 when the Internet and social media has given us a platform, many mothers have taken to the medium to broadcast the highs and lows of motherhood – and some have been brave enough to let the world see their messes.
But then, motherhood in 2018 also is amazing. There is a bond with our children whether they are right next to us or staring at us from a computer or phone screen. We are close with them in a way that is different from the relationships we had with our parents. Our kids teach us patience, amaze us with their independence, humble us with their compassion, and come to us as sounding boards. They give us hugs and sometimes even compliments. On most days, we feel grateful for being given the amazing gift of a child (and yes, even a teenager!)
So, Savannah, you summed it up well when you said motherhood is messy.
But most mothers are okay with the mess. Actually, we love it.
Happy Mother’s Day!