Last night I dabbed some acne medicine on my daughter’s chin. She didn’t ask me to do it, nor did she want me to do it. I just did it out of instinct and it didn’t go over well.
So how far would I go to encourage my daughter to look good?
Not as far as British mom, Chantel Marshall. She’s trying to force her 14-year-old daughter, Britney, to get a boob job.
Chantel told The Sun, “Britney is going through a funny phase at the moment and saying she doesn’t want to get her boobs done.” Chantel then went on to say she really wishes Britney would follow the lead of her four sisters. “I really love the fake look of my girls and I know Britney will go that way when she’s a bit older.”I
On the face of it, this story is ludicrous. I want to be repulsed. I want to think this mom is completely insane….but I can relate to this mom in a very bizarre way. Wasn’t I just dabbing cream on my daughter’s face?
I’m not a crazy mom who goes off the deep end worrying about her daughter’s looks. I want my daughter to attract boys with her smarts, her ambition and her confidence and not care if they don’t find her as attractive as she finds herself.
But I understand how a mom who is struggling with her own confidence could get carried away in pushing her daughter to enhance her appearance. I know a lot of parents today who measure their worth by how successful their children are in sports, academics and physical attractiveness. What parent doesn’t beam when told their daughter is gorgeous?
And there’s the root of the problem. We all know teen girls struggle with their self-esteem. Now, mothers are struggling, too. Our society values beauty and we’ve got many women who themselves are undergoing the knife to enhance their looks.
Isn’t it our job, though, as parents to come up with a constructive way to guide our girls into adulthood with confidence in themselves? If they want plastic surgery and beg for it, then that’s one thing. But to pressure a teen into getting it?
Shouldn’t we at least let our daughters become insecure adults before we encourage them to make life altering decisions about their bodies?
(Britney, 14, and her mom, Chantel, 53)