Last Sunday, my son Matthew asked me if his “girlfriend” could come over? This would be the first time his “girlfriend” would be over since they have been together. Until now, Matthew has been going over her house after school. At first, I was happy that I finally get to meet her after they have been together for a month. On the other hand, I was nervous. Will she like me? Will I like her? Will she be rude? All the mom concerns were coming at me. This is really happening. Matthew is growing up! UGH!
She finally arrived and I walked into Matthew’s bedroom to introduce myself. She was cute and sweet, a typical 15-year-old teen. So far, so good. Matthew had his arm around her and was smiling, and for a second I had a weird feeling come over me; Matthew cares for someone else now. I am not his world anymore. I saw how happy he was and you know what? I was a little bit jealous. Yep, this mom was jealous of a 15 year old. I wanted Matthew to hug me and love me like he did when he was a little boy and I was his everything. Part of me was sad, but the other part was happy that this girl makes him happy.
So I left the room, and when I got into the family room, my husband told me to make sure the bedroom door is open. Well, how the heck do I do that? Do I go back and open the door and embarrass them? Matthew would kill me for embarrassing him. I texted him to please keep the door open and you know what? I walked back toward his room and the door was open! That was easy! I was expecting a text back from him arguing with me about it.
I would love to know if other parents experienced this situation and how they handled it. What is your door policy when a girlfriend or boyfriend is over? Open? Closed? Cracked? Inquiring mom wants to know.