I am sure many of you moms have teen girls who have had or still have boyfriends. Like any mom, you want your daughter to be respected.
I am finding more teen boys have no filter, and no respect when it comes to their girlfriends. Recently, my daughter Olivia sent me a text from a girlfriend whose ex- boyfriend felt the need to call her a “trashy whore” among many other things. I looked at Olivia and said, “How on God’s green earth could your friend allow ANYONE to treat her or talk/text her like that, particularly her boyfriend!” I told Olivia that she should be respected, not only by her friends, but especially a boyfriend who “loves her.” I said to my daughter, “Olivia, it is disgusting that a boy would text your friend such disrespectful things and think it’s OK. I would love to know if he talks to his mother like that.”
The sad thing is, it is not the first time this boy has done this. I have seen previous texts from the boy to Olivia’s friend. I know if it was my son Matthew who did it, I would be ashamed. I wonder if that boy’s mother knows what her son texted to his ex-girlfriend. Are these boys not taught about respecting girls and women?
Olivia knows I can not and will not stand for disrespect at all and she should not either.
When I was dating my husband, never in a million years, even when we fought, did he ever ever call me names especially awful, disrespectful ones like the one Olivia’s girlfriend’s ex did.
So, for all those moms out there with teen girls and boys I would like to request the following:
Teen moms/dads with teenage girls:
- Make sure you talk to your daughter about respect and being respected.
- Inappropriate and foul language is unacceptable period — end of story.
- Value yourself, have some self-respect. People can’t respect you if you don’t respect yourself.
- Any boy who disrespects your daughter does not need to be in her life.
- Talking is better than texting to resolve issues with your boyfriend.
Teen moms/dads with teenage boys:
- Make sure you have the same talk with your son about respect and being respected.
- Talk to him about how texting foul language to a girl — or anyone — is not right (and can be forwarded).
- Tell your son his actions will define his character.
- Explain why he should want to be respected and how it will prevent him from being alone in life.
- Remind him that talking is better than texting to resolve issues.
I have a 15-year-old son Matthew, and trust me I have this talk with him about respecting others and how I will not stand for disrespectful actions or language.
So moms and dads, what are your thoughts? Has your daughter been disrespected? If so, what did you do or say???