Recently I noticed my son Matthew and his friends hanging out at our home more than usual. I didn’t think anything of it until I noticed when I would come home from work or working out, they would be in the family room just talking. It was more than light, teenage conversation. They were talking about serious topics like world peace, pro-life versus pro-choice, the independent political party, etc.
I don’t know about you, but when I was a teen these were NOT the topics we discussed at a friend’s house. Nevertheless, Matthew began to tell me more often that either Alexa or Ashley or Bella or Amalia or all of them were coming over. I didn’t mind because I would rather have Matthew at our home with his friends where I can see him and know who he is with and what they are up to.
Next year Matthew will be off to college, and until then I like him around as much as possible.
It wasn’t until after that night when I overheard their serious conversation that I told Matthew I love that his friends are so comfortable in our home. I told him I love they can talk about anything freely. He then proceeded to tell me, “Mom, our house is the hangout house now. It used to be Alexa’s, but now it’s ours.” Honestly, I was thrilled that these kids felt at home at my house and I told that to Matthew.
Then, Matthew said, “Mom, my friends love you. They think you are great.”
Gee, did I do something right?
I must have done something right if Matthew has friends who are genuine and kind and care about what’s going on in the world. Maybe I am not such a crazy mom after all. The thing is, I actually enjoy having the kids at our house and I love these kids too! I feel like a mom to them as well.
So, with that said, Is your house the “hangout house” for your teen? Do you do anything to encourage your house to be the “hangout house?”