I think many moms can relate having to remind their teen to do their homework, take a shower, make their bed, put deodorant on etc. Well, my son Matthew does NOT like to be reminded of anything. He says, “Mom, do you think I’m stupid that I can’t remember things?” But what Matthew doesn’t recall are the many times in middle school he would forget homework, forget to give me something to sign or fill out for school, forget to put deodorant on or forget to take a shower.
In the past if he forgot, I wouldn’t remind him. Funny thing is, when he would forget, he would say, “Mom, why didn’t you remind me or why didn’t you check my backpack?” So, explain to me how I am supposed to remind him if he doesn’t want me to remind him? UGH!
I don’t want him to get a bad grade because he forgot his homework in high school. But then again I can’t keep enabling his forgetfulness. He needs to remember on his own.
Many times when I would go in his room to remind him of things, he would say, “Ok mom, and don’t forget to breathe.” I asked him why he said that and he answered: “Because that’s how silly you are reminding me of things I know.”
Good advice from a 14 year old. I do need to breathe, not because he was proving a point to me, but because I need to trust him and let him remember on his own to do his homework, take a shower, do his chores. It’s the helicopter mom in me. I need to step back and exhale.
So, here is advice from my teenage son, Matthew, for all the moms out there: Don’t forget to breathe.