Do your teens friends follow you on Instagram?

Recently, a couple of my daughters friends had requested to follow me on Instagram. I thought that was odd since I was “Olivia’s mom” but I figured I had an opportunity to see what my daughter was doing  and with whom when she was out.

At times I am thrilled I can see what my daughter and her friends are up to but then other times, I feel weird following a teen. I have mixed emotions but in the end, I rather be informed then ignored.

One time I decided to “like” a picture of her friend  with his family and apparently the “MILF” comments came. Olivia’s friend was THRILLED I liked his post. She told Olivia, “RAQUEL, liked my post!” Now I am worried I am giving off the wrong signal to a horny teen college boy.

I told Olivia I thought it was sweet he posted a picture of him and his family for the Holidays but, I never expected that response. Needless to say, I wont be “liking” his posts so as not to encourage any misguided intentions.

I know her friends think I’m a cool mom and feel comfortable communicating and making me a part of their inner circle, so in the end, if it allows me to have open access and an open relationship with my daughter, not to mention.. build TRUST, then it’s so worth it.

So, mom’s and dad’s, do you follow your teen on Instagram or do their friends follow you??

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4 Comments

  1. Maria December 16, 2014 at 4:43 pm

    This article could have been written by me! I have also had to stop “liking” my daughter’s male friends posts on FB. I thought it odd that he (they) wanted to friend me a few months ago, but oh well, maybe I was just being a prude. My daughters thought it was a little funny, but that’s it. But when I “liked” a couple of posts, and the boys were a little more thrilled than I intended, I felt the same as you. So now, I am just a silent follower. On both FB, and instagram, and Ask.fm., I am a silent follower, just keeping an eye on things.

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  2. momofthreegirls January 13, 2015 at 6:47 pm

    I do not follow my daughters on Instagram. I do not even have an Instagram account but if I did I would probably follow them. If they are not posting anything inappropriate then they would agree to follow me. I check my daughters accounts on their devices regularly. We have open discussions about what is appropriate and what is not. If I see an adult following my daughter on their Instagram I make sure it’s someone we know very well and have known for years. I think it can be a good way to have open communication with your teen. It certainly can open a lot of discussion seeing what is on Instagram.

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  3. Kerri February 22, 2015 at 2:39 am

    This is such an interesting conversation! I have a personal policy that if a teen I know (likely through my son, but not always as I have worked with and mentored teens for a long time) wants to friend me on FB or follow me on IG then I always accept and follow back, but I don’t friend or follow first.

    Here is why I have this policy:

    I don’t want to be seen as acting creepy or inappropriately, so that’s why I don’t friend or follow first.

    I accept their friend request or follow because teens are hungry for positive adult role models, even if they would never say such a thing (they aren’t usually aware of this need). They are also as hungry for love and acceptance as they were when they were small. In fact, none of us outgrow the need to be liked and accepted for who we are.

    This is opposite of the story we are given that teens are too cool for us and that they don’t need us anymore. Don’t listen to those lies.

    Adults that are warm and friendly and fun to be around are a valuable resource to teenagers. Adults that are committed to having strong sexual boundaries but wide open hearts are a gift to teens everywhere.

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    1. mominthesprings March 5, 2015 at 3:41 pm

      Kerry-

      I absolutely love your take on it and couldn’t agree more. I agree, I think teens need role models and this is their way of reaching out without looking like a “loser”. If I can help mentor or be a role model to my daughters friends, then of course I will. However, we do need to be careful what we post and say knowing they are watching. Thank you for following the blog and hope to hear from you again!
      Raquel

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