As my daughter applys to colleges and prepares to start the next chapter of her life, I asked her if she would consider going to college locally and staying home. Well, I might as well have cut all her hair off and taken her phone from her because that was the reaction I got. How could I even consider that for her she wanted to know?
To her being away at a college – whether it be a big University or small community college – is just that, “AWAY”. It’s her passage to adulthood. She wants to feel she is starting a new chapter somewhere new, not where she went to high school and while living at home.
I went to school locally for a couple of years and stayed home, but she and I are different people. I get that. She knows she won’t feel like she’s growing up living at home. She says she won’t feel like she’s in college, just back in high school.
As silly as that may sound to you and I, to her it’s her reality. It is how she feels and I cant fault her for that. I need to support her in any way that helps her do well in college, whether it be here or away.
In the end, we all have goals and dreams and we set paths to get us there. Many people may not agree with the path we take to achieve our goals, but, as I always tell Olivia, it is not where you start that counts, it is where you end that matters. People may not understand your choices and they don’t have to. I know I don’t sometimes. But people have to understand that they are your choices.
because I know when she wants or needs her mom or dad we will always be here.. home bound.