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New Year, Tons of Homework

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I’m not sure what’s going on but the new year has my home in turmoil.  My oldest are still home from college on winter break having a great time doing whatever they feel like doing and my youngest is inundated with homework.

I remember the older two having tons of homework in high school but it seems to have gotten worse. I know each child has their own pace for getting homework done, and maybe my youngest is slower at his homework (or more distracted). Still, how much homework is too much?

I hate being the nagging mom asking repeatedly each night, “How much homework do you have?” It’s just that as a mom, I want my kid to go to bed at a decent hour. Some nights, I feel like screaming at the teachers, “What are you thinking? These teens deserve time to be a kid.”

Unfortunately, it’s a different academic world today than when most of us parents went to high school.  There is so much pressure on teens to take advanced classes, get good grades, get amazing test scores, participate in activities and go to college. Some teens do after school activities — or work — and then have to come home to hours of homework. No wonder our teens are stressed out, burnt out and suffering from anxiety!

When my daughter got to college last year, she felt the workload was a breeze compared to what she had in high school. She also had more time to get the work done. In that way, I guess high school prepared her well.

Still, is the overwhelming amount of high school homework necessary? I really don’t think it is! I think about all those parents out there,  trying to get their teens to put down their phones and finish math and I send them my sympathy. We all want our children to do well in school. But does school really need to follow our kids home in such a burdensome way?

What are your thoughts on high school homework?

 

3 Comments

  1. As a retired high school teacher and mother of 2 finished with college now, I understand your concern and frustration. Fact is, the higher level coursework (Honors and AP) will demand many hours of homework each night, if the high school teachers are doing their job. That turns into a benefit when a kid goes off to college and doesn’t flunk out or have a break-down. Plus, come students get AP credit and is able to skip the intro course. At the very least, the intro courses are easier after real rigor in high school.
    For the average class and work load … if it seems excessive, I would check with the teacher. Many teachers give class time to start on homework and students will waste that time … hence increasing the load at night.

  2. Thank you for this blog. I have a 9th grader who excelled in middle school. As a result, he was advised to take all Pre-AP and AP courses his freshman year. I cannot believe the volume of homework. Our house is in a constant state of turmoil and revolves around his homework and study requirements. We live week to week trying to balance and play high school football and basketball.

  3. I think the insane expectations of high school students is a societal ill that will one day be looked upon as adults emotionally abusing children. My son was a great lacrosse player, and started playing in first grade. In ninth grade, I told him NOT to play lacrosse, and ditch it, and instead to focus only on grades. It served its purpose up to 8th grade. His friends who play high school sports begin hours of homework, studying, papers, and projects at earliest 8pm after grueling games and practices. They sometimes start at 9pm-10 pm if the game was away. No thanks, not happening in our family. We are saying no to this societally backward- mental breakdown- inducing stupidity of expecting high school students to be sleep deprived uber achievers. My son comes in from a day of classes at high school and takes an appropriate two hour break watching some tv, listening to music, and having something to eat. By 5:00- 6:00, he starts his homework depending on what he has to do. He aims to be done by 8:00 to 9:00 in time for more leisure time and then in bed by 11:00 for a healthy night’s rest. His extracurricular is drawing and one act plays. Both are not time consuming but good enough for the college application. His grades will be fine to go to a state university and from there he can continue to make good grades, enjoy some leisure and the journey, and hopefully find a suitable career that doesn’t have disproportionate suicide rates and rife with more human stupidity (i.e. like law, education, and medicine). (I’ve told my son it’s better to not even have kids than to become enslaved in some horrible profession like law or medicine and be trapped for life because you have a family to support. Life is to be savor end and enjoyed! )There is a lot of stupidity and insanity in our world, and the suicide inducing expectations of high school students is just one more example.

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